I have a 14 year old daughter who is loved by her teachers and the school headmistress. She is very self determined (in a good way), very self assured, makes friends easily, and is very active in sports, dance, and outdoor activities.

     When there is something that she wants to do that I think might not be a good idea instead of saying NO, I discuss with her the pros and cons of that action using two way communication, and answering all her questions, and then let her make her own decision. 9.5 times out of ten she makes the right decision and unless the result would be harmful, I let her carry on with the wrong decisions, and when the results turn out bad, she takes responsibility for them and learns a lot more, and becomes a more prosurvival type person, than if I had just said NO! and that was the end of that.

     She is now a lot more able than most kids her age (and older) to look at the pros and cons of an action and be able to understand what the results of that action will be, and thus make the most pro- survival decision on what action to take.

     Some of the above results were based on how I was raised, using the good parts and firmly discarding the bad parts and not repeating the same mistakes that were used on me, and all of it was from the knowledge and use of L. Ron Hubbard technology, Scientology, which also helped me define and understand which were the good and bad parts.